I rarely bite on this kind of thing, buuut...

thisisthebirth:

i used to talk to this dom pornstar that stars in extreme bondage shit (you can find him on kink.com) and i came across his tumblr a bit ago and it’s so fucking disturbing. there are gifs of him putting plastic bags over women’s heads and pissing into the bags and forcing them to swallow all of his piss. and forcing women to hold enemas. i don’t understand how people can claim that bdsm isn’t abuse? like when you’re forcing people to swallow urine and locking women up in cages filled with water where they can barely breathe and drawing blood and making them pass out and locking them up with cones around their heads for days at a time while they get pissed on and shaving their heads and forcing them to eat their hair while you deepthroat them….like..these things are not ok and i don’t understand how people do these things to people they claim to care about, lol. these people are seriously scary and this man needs to be locked up. in a non-kinky way.

This was brought to my attention by ChaosGhost, who thinks the poster is talking about me. I suspect so too, but… Momentarily ignoring the wider (and no doubt extremely important) debate to be had here regarding the nature of consent, there’s a few things I have to clear up. Apologies in advance for what will likely be a pretty long post.

1. “there are gifs of him putting plastic bags over women’s heads and pissing into the bags and forcing them to swallow all of his piss…”
   
   I think you’re talking about this gifset, that I posted on TooDeviant. My non personal blog. The one where I post material sourced from other porn sites. It clearly shows a man who is not me, and looks nothing like me, engaging in an activity vaguely similar to that described. Except… The lovely Tia Ling was clearly not forced to drink all the urine. She freaked out a little so the bag was torn open and she was given some time for a breather. She’s a woman with very extreme tastes, one has to be in order to shoot with those guys. I personally appreciate that they leave moments like this in the videos they post instead of editing them out, it adds a healthy dose of reality and reminds people that things don’t always run smoothly.
   
   
2. “i don’t understand how people can claim that bdsm isn’t abuse? like when you’re forcing people to swallow urine and locking women up in cages filled with water where they can barely breathe and drawing blood and making them pass out…”
   
   Again, overlooking the tenuous grip this person has on the concept of consent, let’s focus on the tenuous grip they have on reality, and the truth. I have indeed done a fair bit of piss play. Guilty as charged. However, I’ve never locked somebody in a cage filled with water. I’m also not into bloodletting or any play involving sharp things and breaking the skin at all, really. Just not my thing. More power to those that dig it and can do it safely though. I’m pretty sure I have had a couple of people pass out on me, but they were up way past their bedtime and I guess not everybody can handle a long, hardcore overnight Adventure Time marathon.
   
   
3. “…and locking them up with cones around their heads for days at a time while they get pissed on…”
   
   Here’s the post she’s on about. Again, I was not involved in the shooting of this movie. I took some text from the description of the movie on the website it’s from and then kinda went with it. In the fantasy scenario described, this is happening overnight. Still not sure where you got the “days at a time” part from, but regardless… Sorry to burst your bubble if you’re the type that has trouble differentiating between fantasy and reality, but the Infernal Restraints crew shoot their porn during the afternoon, much like everybody else in the industry. And being quite familiar with both Calico Lane (who is awesome on many levels by the way), and the shooting practices of Intersec Interactive, I can assure you that they took plenty of breaks during what was likely a 5 or 6 hour shooting session, of which the part I made the gifset from was just one of maybe 5 scenes recorded. She probably wasn’t in that cone for more than half an hour at a time. Don’t believe everything you see on TV, kids.
   
   
4. “…and shaving their heads and forcing them to eat their hair while you deepthroat them…”
   
   I wasn’t convinced this was about me until I saw this part. It’s a reference to this gifset, or perhaps this one. At least this time the content being talked about is actually mine! This was a really hot scene for all parties involved, and I’m very grateful that the lady I shot it with (who has asked to remain nameless), let me share those snippets of it here on tumblr. Once again, unfortunately, the description of events is more than a little off. Do you see her swallowing any hair? Do you see my dick in her throat? Yeah, not so much. Oddly enough you do not see these things because they didn’t happen.
   
   
5. “…this man needs to be locked up. in a non-kinky way.”
   
   I’m sorry that you think that. For what it’s worth, I also identify as a feminist, and I also deplore abuse. The truth is that there is some abusive shit going on in the BDSM scene. I’ve had some personal run-ins with predatory, sociopathic tops. They’re out there. You can’t really call a situation unless you really have insight into the characters involved, though. There’s stuff out there that looks scary and nonconsensual but is totally above board, and there’s super tame material with a dark backstory we’re not clued into. The things I post, to the best of my knowledge, would tend to fall into the first camp. I’m pretty big on informed consent, and if you really knew me, you’d know that. I can’t get off at all unless I’m damn sure that the person I’m playing with is absolutely willing and actively seeking out the kind of activities I specialize in - and requiring that level of certainty is the main reason I don’t do much work in the porn business nowadays. It’s not that the adult industry is inherently abusive, it’s just that unless I’m working with someone I know pretty well, I can’t be quite certain enough that they’re totally digging it, and I personally find that to be a bonerkill. Plus I have this whole thing where I need to actually like and get along with the people I tie up and hurt. I know this concept may be confusing to you, but please, just humour me.
   
   Patriarchy is a thing, and so is rape culture, but I’ve witnessed abusive relationships of every flavour. It bears remembering that there’s a whole lot of kinky relationships out there that aren’t comprised of a male top and a female submissive - there’s dangerous female, gay and genderqueer tops out there too.
   
   Y’know, inventing a bunch of bullshit about somebody and saying they should be locked up is also kind of abusive too though. As is slandering an entire group of people based on ignorant assumptions and knee-jerk reactions to the things they do for fun.
   
   You’re right about one thing here, and that is you don’t understand. So do some research and talk to some people. Talk to me if you like (instead of just talking about me). You might find that’s a better way to gain some understanding. Message me some time. Or better yet, if you want some insight into the submissive psyche, get into a dialogue with a submissive who’s into the kind of stuff that freaks you out to look at so much. Just try to keep an open mind, lest you find yourself looking a little too much like the kind of narrow minded bigot that feminists have been combating for so many years in the quest for equality. Dismissing the voice and agency of the female kinksters that are already responding to this post is a terrible road to go down if you claim to be on the side of womankind.
   
   But please… If we’re going to take apart, analyze and pass judgement on what I’ve done with the intelligent, self-actualized, willing, consenting, kinky feminists I’m lucky to have had as partners - can we base that conversation on things that we actually did together?
   
   Cheers,
   
   -Mister Torn.